Rules are made to be broken!
Yes, there are rules and yes, you should totally break them! There are thousands of articles, blogs, videos, all designed to tell you how to navigate through your love life, from how to kiss a guy to the different stages of getting under, over and away from a guy. Honest to God, it baffles me! Like do we seriously need that much help? Whatever happened to just living your life. Nowadays, there are so many dating
rules out there that, that it's hard for a girl to just do what she wants, without having cosmopolitan judging you in one of those "Why you shouldn't send drunk texts?" articles. I know Cosmo but I'm gonna do it anyways! Here's just a couple of rules I think you should totally break and if the guy doesn't respect you for it, then good, he was no good anyways!
Hiding your feelings
This is one rule that really pisses me off, and it’s always
hidden between all the dating blogs and articles. They are always expecting you
to hide your feelings and pretend like you don’t care when a guy you like does
something douche-y to you. As if, he should, by some mystical chance, know exactly
how you feel when he made that stupid joke about you in front of his friends.
Ofcourse, he, or she even, should be able to tell by your demeanor after the
event, or even better just not do the stupid thing in the first place but just giving them the cold shoulder, or even worst, acting completely
normal when really, they’ve done something to piss you off is stupid. Be sassy,
say how you feel! If someone’s pissed you off, say it because at the end of the
day, you’re the one with the problem, not them!
If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends
No, no and no. No, you honestly do not have to get with my friends. I
once had a guy who I was seeing text me asking if he could have sex with my friends,
before passing it off as a mix of drunkenness, banter and plain stupidity. It was not a fun conversation. Now I know the saying isn't literal (don't think my ex got the memo lol) but what I'm trying to say is that it's okay. If he doesn’t get on with your friends, or
your friends don’t like him, it’s okay. Why? Well, you’re the one who’s dating
this person, not your friends, and vice-versa. Becky and Sally don’t have to
understand why he constantly laughs at stupid jokes, and he doesn’t have to get
why Becky refuses to watch any type of sport. Obviously, it can be difficult if
the person you like, doesn’t get on with your friends, but it’s definitely not
the end of the world. If he seriously is a dick and your friends are just
trying to warn you, great, they’re just being good friends but sometimes, you
have to just live your life – be who you want to be with and make mistakes. It's all part of growing up, just make sure all parties are mature about it. It's okay if you low-key hate my boyfriend, I don't need you to like him like I do :)
The Chase
The whole notion of
changing who you are, and how you would react to certain situations, because
you want to be considered cool and mysterious and sexy, is stupid. I’m an
excitable person, I love surprises and if Dick is going to tell me that he has
a surprise for me, I’m not going to give him some elusive reply, or even worst,
an “okay”, I’m going to be me. Sometimes, I feel like the chase requires you to
compromise your character, in order to get that one person you like, and it’s
not fair. How about just being yourself, replying to his text when you want
instead of waiting three hours so he doesn’t think you’re “eager”, telling him
about how you honestly feel, instead of waiting three months, only to figure
out that he was never after the same thing. I mean, I’m not saying the chase is
a bad thing, I’m just saying, do you honeyboo. You can partake in the chase,
just stay true to yourself and never, ever waste your times. Life's too short for that.
So, there you have it. The most annoying dating rules detonated by yours truly. All I’m really trying to say is that you should be yourself, do what you want.
I mean, you could totally disagree with me and be okay with hiding your
how you feel, and keeping your pride. I just want you to be who you are, fuck the rules and have fun
whilst you fall in love. It’s an adventure, not a video game.
S x
